Speed dating alternative
We aim to organise upmarket and sophisticated events with an interactive element as an alternative to speed dating and singles nights
What would be your ideal singles event?
started by SweetPeep (13 April 2011)
13 April 2011
We would be interested to know what single people would like for their ideal singles event, apart from obviously meeting a potential partner.
Here are a couple of questions to get you started, feel free to add your own comments.
What would make you happy to attend an event on your own?
What would be the minimum & maximum number of people you would like at an event?
SweetPeep edited this post 13 April 2011
16 April 2011
I'd feel happier attending an event by myself if there was someone in situ to meet + greet without having to go in search of someone when you arrive. It's really off putting walking into a location when you don't know anyone.
Secondly, if the group was only 10 to 12 people. It's more intimate and I would certainly talk 1 to 1 with that many people, any bigger and you look desperate and pathetic.
It's far better when the organisers take control and direct the situation rather than leave it up to you to go up to complete strangers and start a conversation. I tend to get bored having to repeat myself with "so what's your name and where do you come from?". I hate pretentious chat with status being more important than personality.
16 April 2011
As per your description "upmarket and sophisticated events", I would suggest one of your approaches (not necessarily the only one) would be to do a weekend event that has an interesting pretext - such as wine tasting, historical site tours, theatre / opera / balet, even a cooking weekend for the gastronomes out there, etc etc. Yes, this would cost more, require staying away from home, etc - though I think the depth of relationships that can be created here would be more promising than the 'ask 10 standard questions and pick your partner in an hour' kind of thing, and would allow people to attend with the pretense of the event with a secondary view on 'dating' - I think this would make for more of a natural situation rather than attendees feeling they need to jump in and make an impression on every attendee in 10 minutes. This might take the pressure off a bit and give something to focus on when not trying to impress - if done right, it will also make the event more fun so people will be happier and less defensive. Personally, I would join one of these if the activity was interesting enough, and hope that you had a good balance of people attend without there being too many (over 20 would be way too much).